Don Feeney

Entrancing Relationships: the Hypnotic Framework of Addictive Relationships Don Feeney

Why do partners return to dysfunctional relationships forgiving, forgetting and forever repeating the same miserable scenario? Without awareness and mastery of entrancing hypnotic forces, relationships can be severely damaged or even destroyed. The essential premise is that addictive enmeshment is the result of what are experienced as irresistible pulls from hypnotic entrancement. Hypnotic entrancement is fantasy fixation of perfect love leading to eventual demise. Parallels are drawn to hypnotic phenomena. Entrancement involves a coming together or fusion of idealized images superimposed upon physical attributes of the partner. Each partner brings to the relationship ideals or images of their perfect mate. Partners merge their ideal images of love and beauty with the size, shape and contour symmetries of mates. The scope of the book is to guide the reader through the turbulence where the hidden self is revealed as an anchor of sensory motifs. Sensory motifs are inherent, self-organizing structures and characteristics that give partners their sense of uniqueness. Numerous case examples illustrate a four-stage parallel between addictive bonds and hypnosis (e.g.: idealization, disillusionment, obsession and reproachment). Reawakening is described as releasing entrancement through the emergence of innate artistic motifs.