VIV Matveeva

While You're Waiting VIV Matveeva

Have you begun wondering if you can survive the adoption waiting game? Are you no longer enjoying the little things in life due to ruminating about the adoption? The agony of waiting, lost matches, reevaluations, or false starts can begin to dampen the perspective adoptive parent's outlook. Well trained adoption professionals advise "don't keep your life on hold," yet you sit on pins and needles. An emotional vortex looms around the corner of uncertainty. While You're Waiting highlights the opportunity available to you during this time that is bookended by adoption decision and gotcha day. Ambiguous waiting yields a harvest of chances to get your (inner) act together for your future child and for yourself. The author compassionately challenges you to replace the "no end in sight" feeling with: Meeting the unspoken fears you have about adoption; enjoying the present moment in place of being stuck in a moment; putting an end to "real mom" or "real dad," and "baby of my own" talk; loosening the grip of perfection and having all the answers; traversing the gateway to parental attunement; waiting well and getting well to parent well.