P Alan Greene

No More Nice Guys P Alan Greene

Who wants to be a Nice Guy, eternally on the friendship track, forever finishing last? Yet many men choose the Nice Guy life without even realizing it, without really understanding what lurks in the sub-basement of Nice Guy Syndrome. Consider the following examples: * Debbie thinks Bill is kind, considerate, and decent, but after months of dating, she feels no spark, no special tingle, no attraction. "I feel so bad," she says. "I really ought to love him, but I don't, even though I want to" * John has just been dumped again after weeks of bending over backwards to keep the relationship alive. "Now she'll start seeing some macho asshole," he says. "Why do I always get dumped?" * Everyone in the office is talking about it. Bob, the perfect husband, the avid churchgoer, the devoted family man, split with his wife when she discovered him having an affair. "An affair?! Bob?! I can't believe it." Each is suffering Nice Guy Syndrome, not always easy to identify and even harder to overcome-- but that's because nobody is talking honestly about the root of the problem. In the spirit of He's Not That Into You and other books that speak hard truth about relationships, I offer No More Nice Guys, a field guide for the men who suffer from NGS and the women whose lives they mess up.